A shoulder to cry on…?? A shoulder to shoot from…?? Take whichever, u need someone else to let your emotions out. Be the emotion love or hate, pain or no pain, happy or sad.. u will always need a shoulder. Emotions have no value if u have no one to show them to. there is no fun in loving anyone, without that person knowing how crazed u have been for him/her... no fun hating anyone if u can’t show it... express it, at least talk about it to someone, if nothing else crib and blame it one someone, but never miss a chance to explain yourself and safe side yourself to ensure – u personally wouldn’t associate yourself with emotions as strong and as negative as “hatred”… it was an outcome of something beyond your control. So far… So good… The trouble is how to express without owning up the major emotional display!!
A simple way is to figure out someone to rest the case on, like we all do. we all have a shoulder - to cry on, for support when u are having some really difficult times, a shoulder to fire from…& for all ur blames to be safely planted on - like they say "the one who is still smiling after being in the craziest situation has someone in mind to be blamed." So you seek a shoulder to make some guy responsible for all the shit that happens in your life. Now this shoulder for blame - can be a situation, can be your luck, can very well be a person, can be God... u have plenty many options... !
The point is we are just too weak to deal with our own emotions. You keep looking for someone to validate them for you. Don’t be surprised; think about it – a simple situation – so how do u react when someone gives a u really grand compliment. Can you take it with ease – say thank you and be happy and move on!! No. Firstly, you’ll deny, u make all kinds of useless statements to deny probably the best compliment you have received in a long time – cause even before you have fully enjoyed it, u immediately start doubting yourself. You can’t believe it – it was about u J
Secondly, you’ll conveniently find a shoulder to rest the cause of why u were able to receive the compliment – u know… “it’s this color that brings a glow to my face,” u know… “I just think this new dress is really catchy…!!”
God!! Just say thank you – move on! It’s okay to look good, it’s normal to receive compliments. Why so awkward??
Well this was about a positive emotion – but when it comes to something negative and especially when you are the owner of the emotion – do u really voice it out – without any side bars? Can u express your anger as your own… can u express sadness and still own it up… Or deal with Loneliness… It’s okay to have these emotions – to express them and be comfortable with them.
If you are in fact experiencing a sad moment, day or phase in life – accept it. Deal with it. Maybe you would deal with it poorly, but denying would only complicate matters. You can’t hide or run from your own emotions, your own feelings. But nooooo… instead of assuming the responsibility of your own feelings u run and u run and u run faster to catch someone in the vicinity to blame it all on! So if you are sad – it’s because of some situation, somebody, some damn thing happened which was beyond your control. So the freaking misery was inflicted upon you since according to you by all means – u are immune to all emotions is how u’d rather pretend.
Why this need for a shoulder, why is that we can’t stand up to & express what we feel, why does u we treat our emotions like creepers that by design won’t be able to stand up on their own. They would always need something or someone to host their lives on just like a parasite to grow on. Why is there so much of awkwardness with oneself? Why does it make us so comfortable being able to blame things on someone why should u not say it with utmost honesty and not worry about what would they think about you!!
Looks like it’s all a function of the choices you make and the kind of social image u wish to maintain… So u are constantly busy managing your public profile – u’ll become so occupied in ensuring that others feel right about you, that in the process u completely, brutally ignore how do u feel about yourself! Does it feel suffocated – with all that’s trapped inside of you, do u feel burdened with the naked truths of your own life?
We have all read written and spoken about the games people play. We all like to be prepared for all the turbulence outside of us. What go unheard are the games we play with our selves. The way we keep looking down upon ourselves. Underestimating our own feelings is only step one to demeaning us that results into just the grand opening of inviting the rest of the world to do the same to you. One fine day when the realization strikes – u start questioning all that’s around you… why the hell am I going through all this. Who exactly gave someone – just about anyone – the right to make me feel so shitty!
Surprise Surprise!! Well you did. Knowingly or not “You” are the one who invited everyone, and gave everyone that right – and now you don’t how to stop the damn circus. You were the one who wasn’t comfortable being on the driver seat of your life. You were the one who looked for a shoulder to ventilate, a shoulder to fire thoughts from to label blames on. The day u assume responsibility of your own good bad ugly being, the true meaning of your living and believing – u shall be a happy person! Don’t know what constitutes your happiness quotient. But you would be a lot less burdened for sure.
Start today, start it at this very moment – all that’s happening in life are the various mesmerizing views of the fantastic journey of life, it’s not life in itself. See it, move on – else u’ll never reach the point that u actually began your journey for. Each emotion, each emotional experience is just one spot from the site seeing options of the holiday that’s called life.
See you at the top!
A simple way is to figure out someone to rest the case on, like we all do. we all have a shoulder - to cry on, for support when u are having some really difficult times, a shoulder to fire from…& for all ur blames to be safely planted on - like they say "the one who is still smiling after being in the craziest situation has someone in mind to be blamed." So you seek a shoulder to make some guy responsible for all the shit that happens in your life. Now this shoulder for blame - can be a situation, can be your luck, can very well be a person, can be God... u have plenty many options... !
The point is we are just too weak to deal with our own emotions. You keep looking for someone to validate them for you. Don’t be surprised; think about it – a simple situation – so how do u react when someone gives a u really grand compliment. Can you take it with ease – say thank you and be happy and move on!! No. Firstly, you’ll deny, u make all kinds of useless statements to deny probably the best compliment you have received in a long time – cause even before you have fully enjoyed it, u immediately start doubting yourself. You can’t believe it – it was about u J
Secondly, you’ll conveniently find a shoulder to rest the cause of why u were able to receive the compliment – u know… “it’s this color that brings a glow to my face,” u know… “I just think this new dress is really catchy…!!”
God!! Just say thank you – move on! It’s okay to look good, it’s normal to receive compliments. Why so awkward??
Well this was about a positive emotion – but when it comes to something negative and especially when you are the owner of the emotion – do u really voice it out – without any side bars? Can u express your anger as your own… can u express sadness and still own it up… Or deal with Loneliness… It’s okay to have these emotions – to express them and be comfortable with them.
If you are in fact experiencing a sad moment, day or phase in life – accept it. Deal with it. Maybe you would deal with it poorly, but denying would only complicate matters. You can’t hide or run from your own emotions, your own feelings. But nooooo… instead of assuming the responsibility of your own feelings u run and u run and u run faster to catch someone in the vicinity to blame it all on! So if you are sad – it’s because of some situation, somebody, some damn thing happened which was beyond your control. So the freaking misery was inflicted upon you since according to you by all means – u are immune to all emotions is how u’d rather pretend.
Why this need for a shoulder, why is that we can’t stand up to & express what we feel, why does u we treat our emotions like creepers that by design won’t be able to stand up on their own. They would always need something or someone to host their lives on just like a parasite to grow on. Why is there so much of awkwardness with oneself? Why does it make us so comfortable being able to blame things on someone why should u not say it with utmost honesty and not worry about what would they think about you!!
Looks like it’s all a function of the choices you make and the kind of social image u wish to maintain… So u are constantly busy managing your public profile – u’ll become so occupied in ensuring that others feel right about you, that in the process u completely, brutally ignore how do u feel about yourself! Does it feel suffocated – with all that’s trapped inside of you, do u feel burdened with the naked truths of your own life?
We have all read written and spoken about the games people play. We all like to be prepared for all the turbulence outside of us. What go unheard are the games we play with our selves. The way we keep looking down upon ourselves. Underestimating our own feelings is only step one to demeaning us that results into just the grand opening of inviting the rest of the world to do the same to you. One fine day when the realization strikes – u start questioning all that’s around you… why the hell am I going through all this. Who exactly gave someone – just about anyone – the right to make me feel so shitty!
Surprise Surprise!! Well you did. Knowingly or not “You” are the one who invited everyone, and gave everyone that right – and now you don’t how to stop the damn circus. You were the one who wasn’t comfortable being on the driver seat of your life. You were the one who looked for a shoulder to ventilate, a shoulder to fire thoughts from to label blames on. The day u assume responsibility of your own good bad ugly being, the true meaning of your living and believing – u shall be a happy person! Don’t know what constitutes your happiness quotient. But you would be a lot less burdened for sure.
Start today, start it at this very moment – all that’s happening in life are the various mesmerizing views of the fantastic journey of life, it’s not life in itself. See it, move on – else u’ll never reach the point that u actually began your journey for. Each emotion, each emotional experience is just one spot from the site seeing options of the holiday that’s called life.
See you at the top!
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