It’s too complicated to be simple… “I think all I want in life is pretty basic stuff”… “I am an open book…” “I really mean what I say…” “I hate hypocrisy…”
Very often we have heard these from a lot of people around us – the so called – claiming to be simple people…! Think again about each person one more time. Really?? No I mean it – really? Well einh… looks like not simple after all.
All those people claiming to be the simplest around u –and of course this could include yourself too - if you make these statements too J are in reality the most confusing soles in retrospect.
Okay let’s park this thought aside for a moment. Let’s move on to the helping kinds.
Think about all the situations in life when you have felt the need of some help, from someone who has been close preferably – but then as the situation gets desperate you longed for the help of just about anyone. The interesting thing is that this world is a wonderful place. There are quite a few people who would show up – to help!! While you are busy thanking them and your stars for having all the right people in life at the right time and therefore all the much deserved help, you seem to forget the very basic lesson learned in life – rather the very first lesson learnt in life, “there is no free lunch darling!!”
So basically – no help is free. Big or small… Asked or offered... It all comes with a price tag. Everyone has an agenda – an ultimate ulterior motive. Some of them are too excited to announce it you and get a negotiation started and some would patiently wait for the right time and then claim it appropriately. When in most cases you end up returning the favor and are in no situation to refuse.
It’s like using up your credit card – it feels awesome to have used that lil extra help that you could not have managed on your own. Then before you know it’s time to return that favor – and mostly at the worst times. So you have three options – return on time – whether you like it or you don’t, return a lil later if you can afford the interest, or else the third option – get black listed and then the life long after effects – mostly again at the most desperate situations!! This is exactly how we return all the help we ever took in life from anyone – near or dear, known or random!
Now let’s step back to the first thought – of claiming to be simple… make a tiny effort to connect the dots. It’s not too different. All those claiming to be simple are the ones who enjoy all the complications. They are the ones… the most difficult to decipher. Just like the longest helping hands are the ones with the longest hidden agenda’s – the self-proclaimed simple people have the most complicated intentions and lives.
Talking about all this in no way means you can never have simple people around you or you cannot have a simple life or that you will or should never find help considering the payback. The need of the hour is the need of that hour and the payback can always be worked out. Like most of us have had torturous times paying back those credit card bills yet not most of us have screwed up credit histories.
The only concept that makes sense to me is that it’s okay to fall upon someone; it’s absolutely okay to admit at times that you can’t handle it on your own. A constant effort to be simple would need a constant effort to know yourself better and more importantly to be more comfortable with yourself. The acceptance of who you are and who you want to be but can’t be – is what really rules the game.
The trick is to still Play on and thus Live on!
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