Only Me ruchi: Have u evolved in love...!

Only Me ruchi: Have u evolved in love...!: Some say it’s the most amazing experience of life, some say its absolute rubbish, but we all yearn for it, we all need it, we all keep claim...

Have u evolved in love...!

Some say it’s the most amazing experience of life, some say its absolute rubbish, but we all yearn for it, we all need it, we all keep claiming it! I do not want to get philosophical here & to argue if i agree or disagree with love or get even more dramatic - to define love. Clichéd!!!
I am not even sure if i really do have an opinion about it. But i surely have felt it, experienced it, longed for it, shared it, expressed it, hoarded it and at times - been deprived of it!

I do strongly feel for and love the idea of being in love. The concept of being in love is just so amazing. I am sure to a great extent it’s the falling in love – that causes u to fall in love. The world seems a much nicer place; you seem to be willing to forgive, to let go, to smile to

Make people smile and do all the nice things in the world…

The fact is love turns us into a very good human being. It makes you do all the nice things. It makes you suddenly turn into this wonderful person who would never let anything wrong happen to any dear one. It gives u all the strength to deal with all the adversities in life, to come up with fantastic ideas that please all around you. The capacity to deal with tough situations rises to an all-time best.  It dawns upon you that how crucial it is to ensure that the most important thing in life is that you should not be the reason for anyone to be upset.

The worry is the more u wanna take everyone along, and keep almost everyone happy - the more load u sign up to carry on u. Now because “YOU” were the one in love and were feeling on top of the world and “YOU” were prepared to bell the cat of evil and solve world hunger and poverty – u suddenly decided that u r gonna make them all – each and everyone around u – Happy!! Nothing wrong actually, except it’s just a manic state of being or like having smoked pot – where u r continuously high – but on a legalized drug called LOVE…

Here u go – the trouble is u were having a beautiful experience of being in love – that started with you being happy and your partner being happy, but now BAM! You suddenly in your manic state of being decided to extend the happiness to the world and u are no longer the person in love finding happiness in the smallest things of the relationship but you have moved on and have assumed that everyone’s happiness is associated with you being in love. Now is the point when u start doubting your relationship, your love and u start putting it through all the love validation tests.

The simple things in life are often the little things in life. That timely hug, a tiny peck, and a deep look in the eye that touches you till the heart are probably the most beautiful things of the world. They actually make u feel alive. However, as we grow and evolve into this love relation we tend to take these beautiful things for granted and start associating our love to larger things in life. When those larger things cannot be achieved as u wud have imagined, u start doubting the love in your life. Read the last sentence again! Think – what exactly are u expecting? Two people crazy about each other, wanting to care for each other, wanting to love & stay in love with each other – wow lovely! But when your heart determines your state of love to the worldly things - u are comparing oranges and apples! No use is all I can say!

Two people in love, the love u share with your parents, the love for your child – is all so pure and simple. There really are no expectations. It really is just love. When there is an outcome based model associated with it is when the problems start. Am not trying to get all fairy tailish here to say that love by itself will be all pink and flowery and sweet… well I am just saying that it is sweet – as long as its only love and not a medium to live a life as per your conditions with the person u chose to be with u in that picture perfect life.

To enjoy the beauty of love, one needs to stay in love and not just fall in love.  I strongly believe that staying in love is far tougher than just falling in love. Yeah yeah – I agree the newness of falling in love and the newness of that feeling of love obviously is a winner hands down. But how often can u keep falling in love – and then think of all the complications!

The most awesome thing about love is it evolves! It grows on u... it becomes stronger and better by the day. Of all the people who fall in love am sure only a few know to grow and live in love. Like everything else in life love too need to be nurtured and then is when it actually bears fruit.  I guess but patience is not one the most favorite virtues of those in love.  Just look around those who have stayed in love, gone through the ups and downs of life together still staying in love are the ones who truly appreciate love and being in love. They are the true ones who are happy and contented deep within. No regrets, whatsoever…

If you are fixated at the newness and excitement of falling in love, it’s like judging the strength of an iceberg by just the visible tip of the iceberg. Of course your Titanic is sure to sink. If we u wish to keep sailing and reach the destination of love (which by the way in itself can be an equally rich conversation)… you have to have the strength to deal with the love… is maybe why they say that u fall in love – cause that’s only the beginning. To feel the true love and to enjoy it for life u need to keep rising above…

So before I come back with another thought on the destination of love – sit back and think – how far have u evolved in love!!

Love… live… evolve!!