So what do you do when a child refuses to listen to what you demand? Scold, scream, shout, punish – in acceptable or unacceptable ways…! Okay. No worries, we are actually not judging your parenting skills. It’s okay also coz that’s “your” kid and you certainly would be doing a great job as a parent.
I just wanna say that this “show of power” proves that you are extremely good at expressing that you are in fact powerful with those who are rather – powerless in front of you.
What happens when kids grow up? They do thing that their parents or elders want them to do not because the elders have the power but out of respect.
We all listen to a certain boss because of power and then there are those bosses that you would go beyond the call of duty to do things that would like to be done because you respect them.
So what exactly is going on here?
I’d say it seems like some kid who is getting bullied goes and bullies another feebler kid. Just like ragging, or for that matter a daughter in law and a mother in law relationship. Everywhere there is this fake sense of power which is desired and yet somehow not appropriate.
I strongly believe that the mess in life and relationships happen when there is confusion in power and respect. When people seek one instead of the other, when people enjoy one instead of the other or even when people give one instead of the other…! The grand confusion of power & respect is born!
Have you ever secretly asked yourself – what’s your poison – power or respect?
Coz if it’s neither, you haven’t really spoken to yourself in a while. It’s unreal that you do not enjoy or crave power or respect!
It becomes all the more crucial to know what gets you going cause that in a certain way would define your personality, the current stage of maturity that you are in. it’s fairly simple – if power is what you are looking for primarily then you have a lot more growing up to do. I am not saying that’s it’s amateurish to pursue power it’s just seems more like an opening act… like the stand-up comedian before Pink Floyd comes on stage to perform!!
It’s the chicken and egg story – what comes first. However, we must also know that as much as there is no order or sequence of appearance in this act of power and respect they are unbelievably interwoven. This apparently is the logical part. The fun begins when you have tasted both and over a period of time you decide which is real evil that gives you the kick for survival.
There are different situations and different life events for each one of us that determine what we finally decide to stick with as the fuel to our engines. As unreal as it sounds trust me and you know it – you must chose here… one would be the passion and the other would be your addiction. They would never be exclusive of each other and one would always follow the other.
The game of life takes its own turns depending on what you pick to be your first love. Again here I am not debating which of the two is better – remember they are both evil addictions and that none of us gets to escape...
Your choices, your circumstances and all that wires you to be “you” defines whether “Your life is a game of power that you live respectfully or the wealth of respect that you earn powerfully “
The day you know the answer your life, the choices you make, and happiness will all become one big fat happy family.
Keep discovering yourself, there is lots more to know about your own self than you think you know!
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ruchi
