Lately, I have been pretty absorbed by the idea of positive energy
and negative energy. I am gradually getting more and more convince that all
good in life comes because of all the positivity in life and all our bad
thoughts results into bad experiences. Hence, anything that dwells on
negativity will always lead to horrible experiences and life events.
I remember growing up with tons of Hindu mythology stories
that somehow have stayed with me longer than I thought they would and are
gradually becoming more and more meaningful in my own weird ways. One such stories
mentioned that the household that carries the book “Mahabharata” will always be
in chaos and fighting – just like the way it is in the book. This is pretty
much in sync with what we hear from the various Feng Shui & Vaastu experts –
the nature of energy in your household is directly related to the kind of
literature & art work at home.
Good books and good stuff at home will encourage positivity –
just as a clutter free home would. This is logically true as well, a cluttered
house would be a breeding ground for germs and diseases and a dirty environment
is known to lowers our brains functionality, thus making us depressed, anxious,
sloppy and nervous.
Coming to the point of this post now –
We’ve all at some point in time written a diary a journal a
letter to our own self or whatever else you call it. So what do you write in
your “personal” diary? Actually, let’s take a step back. Who are the folks who
believe in writing a diary? Well, as we all know, the typical ones would be the
ones who claim to be absolutely uncomfortable sharing their thoughts,
experiences and their feelings most importantly, with another person. When the
burden of their feelings, grows beyond what they can handle they resort to
expressing it to the famous – “Dear Diary”!
This is very confusing to me, you are advised to reduce your burden
of the bundled up emotions by secretly writing them into a diary that stays
within your locked up space. In my understanding that’s like a bundle of
negativity that I keep in my bed side drawer. Think about it, when do you write
the diary – when something so upsetting so bad is happening to you in life that
you are not able to share it with anyone – no one at all. So basically it’s the
darkest form of bad energy that we neatly describe in words and keep it safe in
our homes.
We have all since ever been encouraged to keep a journal. My 6
year old has one too. Has anyone ever told us what to write in it, was there a
rule book about these journals? No. Since we were told that this is our
personal space that we do not have to share with anyone, we ‘assumed’ we could
use this to vent our emotions. Interestingly, I am yet to come across a lot of
people who use this diary to write only and only great & wonderful
experiences of life.
Most people resort to diaries when there is no other resort
left.
Point is, if you really wish to feel better and the things
that are so personal & are bothering you so much, the things that are so
private, why not write them with a positive twist if it has to stay in your
home. Why make it a page of Mahabharata that would bring in all the negative
energy to your life. The concept is not to stop writing a diary, but not to
make the diary a holy grail of all that’s bad in your life. Even if writing all
the mishaps of your life made you feel better, there is no reason why you
should have a ready reckoner of those mishaps at your disposal at all the times.
It’s like killing all your worst enemies and keeping the corpses in your
closet..!
Write, oh please, of course write your journal and I encourage
my little boy to do so too but write about your dreams, what’s good & worth
remembering and documenting. If something that was a bad experience how about
you try to get over it and not document it for future reference.
This diary thought lead me to yet another concept. Think
about that one person in your life who lately – in the recent past or present
is that one person you have been confining too much into. Think sharply, this
may not be your best friend. We all have those friends who have been around us
forever. The special ones we speak to once in a while but they know you the
best and don’t demand your presence or attention every day yet are there for
you when you need them the most and then there are those who claim to be your
most dear friends but they always have an agenda.
The one friend you have been confining too much and lately
sharing too much about all that’s making you miserable could be an altogether a
different kind of friend. I like to call them the “bitching buddies”. They are
present everywhere – office, home, family, neighborhood, gym, grocery store…
every damn where!! If you check closely the conversations you have with these
people you might not be discussing your career aspirations or your other
futuristic developmental thoughts, they probably are not your best financial
advisors too. Then who are these “Best Friends” who you talk to more often than
your real friends and you can share all your personal mess with them so
conveniently, so seamlessly…??
These people just like your dear diary are the suckers for
bad energy, the gossip mongers and the hub of all evil! They attract us like magnets
on days we are low on self-esteem on the days we feel like the center of all
the miserable hell holes of life. They have a skill to make you think and talk
about all that’s bad around you. You could write a book with them on the annoying
neighbors, the demanding jobs, the problems in school, children, marriage, and
in-laws even the economy in general! They are experts in dragging you into this
amazingly negative conversation where no matter what great mood you were in
they would eventually get you to bitch about something or someone that
reassures you that – “well!! your life is a mess!!”
The funny thing is you would feel great talking to these
people, as you get lured into believing that finally you have someone in life
who understands you, who knows you are awesome but just surrounded by horrible
people and unmanageable situations. These are the only true friends you think you
have who understand the poor you – ‘the victim you!!’
Well, victim yes, but not of circumstances but of these
negative energy generating hubs.
Another cool thing about these kind of “friends” is that they
keep changing – you might not be bitching your gut out to the same person since
you learned to bitch,,,
Bottom line whether you are talking to yourself in the secret
way of writing a diary or your are sharing it with your bitching buddy – as long
as the content of this sharing and ventilating is negative no good is ever
gonna come out of this. If your expression is of something sad the feeling with
it and the outcome reaction of all this will eventually make you sad.
Things in life will at some point go wrong, the more you talk
about something going wrong in life to your so called best friend the more you
are inviting negative energy in your life. Think about the process of this
sharing you’ll know how logically you are building up ground for more bad stuff…
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You think about a bad experience - makes you feel bad
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You talk it through in your head – makes you feel bad
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You talk about it to your bitching buddy – makes you
feel bad
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You analyze the bad experience with your buddy – makes
you feel worse
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You have done so much repetition of the bad experience
that now there is no way you can forget it – you will continue to feel bad
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You feel bad – you go back to your bitching buddy
cause you feel bad
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To assure you that you are awesome but it’s the bad
experience in life that makes you feel so bad you both together repeat it,
discuss it again and then continue to feel bad….!!
You see… this never ends!! It can never end!
All good bad ugly is part of life, what would you like to
focus your energy on is all that would make the difference… Choosing to be
positive will not come to you naturally; you’ll have to make that decision daily.
That’s why the saying – Good things happen to good people!
