When I was studying and practicing psychology I always liked
and eventually relied more on the eclectic approach. Without going into the
psycho details of it – eclectic would mean a healthy mix or balance of all
that’s known. Before I could figure,,, I now have an eclectic approach towards
everything – life… people… lifestyle… friends… enemies… the good… the bad… and
the ugly!!
The beauty of it is it helps me work with the basic mantra
of life that I was always reminded of as a kid “Atii sarvatra varjyatey” – meaning
– excess of everything is bad. Looks like if you follow this principle you end
up in the lap of an eclectic approach in life – cause you always make room for
a little of everything. Since you aren’t in the race for too much of anything
you end up adding a handsome variety to make up for it.
The interesting thing about this thought process is that you
get to be with and sometimes deal with all kinds of people and situations in
life – thanks to the variety you’ve added. To me that’s not a bad thing either.
Cause the wider the spread of experiences you have the more your faith in the
general good of life, world, people etc. would be built. Having this mix of all
kinds of people and all kinds of situations acts like this multi stage refining
process and the only outcome is ‘a better you’!
Other individuals
affect us more than any other factor in the world. They are the most
unpredictable, the most mysterious and the most exciting — at least, some are.
There are other types of individuals, however. Then there are those who are
more toxic than they are precious. If you want to live the best life possible, you
should surround yourself with the best people possible; the best possible
situations would follow J
More importantly,
you would want to avoid all the toxic ones who will make you worse off for
knowing them. The nicer people understand the importance and influence that
human beings have on one another and use this knowledge to their advantage.
The good fellas
am referring to aren’t flawless and aren’t impervious to all. With enough
damage coming from enough sides, even the strongest will fall. The trick is to
plan ahead and avoid those that make up the worst of the worst – I’ve been
lucky to have this opportunity to let go of these energy suckers multiple times
and then good times followed suite.
The big ones to
look out for are those who feel the need to be showy are always compensating
for something and trying to prove their worth to themselves. Unfortunately for
them, this is how you know they have little worth.
Showing and
trying to make other people envious is a waste of time, unless you’re trying to
make yourself feel better about yourself at the expense of others. People that
do such things are not the kind of people you want to keep around.
Then there are
those who are too smart. I’m not talking the kind of dumb that can’t be helped;
I’m talking about the kind of dumb that is a result of an immense ego,
voluntary ignorance and self-righteousness.
Most of us know
at least one or two people who are completely unintelligent as a result of
continually making bad decisions and not learning from their mistakes for their
entire lives.
Yet another
category is the kind that would not only drain you mentally and emotionally but
financially as well! Growing up, we’ve all had or been that friend who was
always a bit broke and always happy to take a handout. When our friends are at
a difficult point in their lives, there’s no reason not to help them out or to
offer to pay for a few rounds of their drinks so they come out and have fun with
the rest of the group. The problem is when the person seems comfortable in the
position and is making little to no effort of improving their spending habits.
The list is
fairly long… the lazy, the yolo kinds who like to get wasted and waste their
lives… and of course the crown wining to those that spend their time running
their mouths spend little time doing anything else – the famous big talkers!
I’d keep on fence
with the non-dreamers, the comfort zone experts & the non-believers too! Unfortunately
some of the believers too remind me of the donkey from the movie “Shrek”
singing “I am a believer…” in high pitch……
Yet the biggest
disasters around you could be the ones that are perpetually depressed!!
Not those that
have an actual chemical imbalance, but those who act like they do. We all know
people who are always feeling bad for themselves, always complaining about how
difficult their lives are and how unlucky they are.
Bad luck is not a
lifelong circumstance. If your life sucks, then guess what? It’s mostly, if not
entirely, your fault. Don’t keep these folks around unless you want them to
bring you down with them.
Given we cannot completely avoid these kind of experiences to value the good ones in our life and to add to the spice, you would want to keep a healthy mix of life going with a healthy mix of people and experiences :)stay healthy...!
